It's all about relationships

When I was growing up, I would often ask my Mum about how we were connected to certain relatives. For me, it gave me greater clarity as to who was who. But I was also fascinated with the thought that we were all part of a larger family.
 
My mum was a great example of how family are also the people you choose to love, even if you are not related to them. I remember two local girls who lived in our street who were frequent visitors to our home. These girls, Donna and Kim, were daughters of mum’s girlfriends, but they related to my mum as a second mother.
 
As fate would have it, I had a second father myself after my own father died. I latched myself onto Neil as a 12 year old and he and his wife, Pam, remain a positive influence in my life.
 
It is probably no coincidence that I also became a father-figure to another fatherless boy, Damian, who has been part of my family now for 25 years. When I compare the feelings I have for Damian with those for my own natural-born sons, Robbie and Jamie, I can tell you – the love is the same.
 
Where does this need for connection and belonging come from? Are we born this way? Is it in our genes? Has it served our survival and evolution? Wherever it comes from, this need for connection and belonging is fundamental to being human.
 
The research confirms that good relationships with others are the number one source of our well-being and resilience. However, the absence of positive relationships is also the primary cause of our misery and dysfunction.
 
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So, what are you doing to build more positive relationships with others? And what will you do to better respond to frustrations when they occur?
 
We know that those who handle relationship difficulties well draw on a range of approaches rather than relying simply on a single strategy.


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